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[This piece was written by guest writer Alexzandria Chill | UNT Graduate. Marketing Freak. Frankie Bev Fanatic. Lady of Z-PHI-B and Founder of Blog: @DPTaughtMe]

AYE FAM! This month, we’re focusing on mentorship since it’s officially National Mentor Month. We’ve talked about 3 ways prophytes can be better mentors, where the lack of deference derives from and now we’re talking to the Neos. Yes, our amazingly hype, over zealous,  extra eager babies! Because we love our newbies, we didn’t want them to hop on this Greek Life wave without giving them the proper tools to ride it. Here are 9 truths our Neos need to know, but we rarely get to tell them:


Majority of the time when you run into NPHC members, especially if you’re new, people are going to ask you a series of questions like, “You’re Greek? What org? What school did you cross at? What Year? How many did you have on your line? …” From there, 8 times out of 10 they’re going to start diving into “your process” and whatever that may or may not have entailed. They’ll engage you with hilarious, horrendous, mesmerizing and sometimes dramatized stories that sound like something out of a movie.

And while all of this is thoroughly entertaining, no matter how long the person has been in the organization, you will rarely hear them speak on what they experienced after they crossed (outside of parties/probates). Even more-so, it’s hard for them to tell you what’s currently going on in their chapter. This could be because they’re inactive (which could be for a variety of reasons). It could also be because regular events aren’t as “sexy” as probates, stepshows, etc. It could also be because no one has ever really asked them about post-process life outside of prospects inquiring about programs.

Even though your process dictates HOW you start, it does not DEFINE how you continue to leave your mark. Don’t be the pre-process person. The meat of our existence is based on you making an even stronger presence after your probate mask comes off. Brag about the awesome initiatives you’re implementing. Highlight the programs that are making a difference on your campus. Got one better for you: ask your Prophytes and Old Heads what their favorite programs are and why. Probe them about what made it special and how they were able to execute events effectively and successfully. Then, populate your future conversations with those talking points. Divulge the things that make your organization purposeful AND popular.



Although Greek Life has its perks (socially and professionally), your letters don’t make you infallible or invisible. We all know the rule of not drinking in our letters; that’s a given. But that same kind of caution should be used for other aspects of our lives as well ( fighting, gossiping, promiscuity – no shade, etc). Perks don’t equate to permission. Every “tradition” that’s deemed permissible may not be appropriate. Every stereotype doesn’t have to be entertained.

We have a responsibility to represent our founders and their mission to full capacity and the best of our ability. Now, that does not void out fun. Don’t get it twisted. However,  it means you must be more self aware. You are not only Frank or Sandra. You’re now Frank the Frat Brother and Sandra the Sorority Girl. Your organization carries weight and you must carry it gracefully, regardless of how others conduct themselves. If you feel like you might be on another tip for the night, refrain from wearing your letters (and colors) just to keep it careful. We all have our moments; bruh, we’re human. Do you, but be mindful.


We ask you to be accountable because our whole existence depends on it. Our organizations are LITERALLY businesses, non-profits at that. That means there is no room for error. We have stakeholders, investors and community contributors who partner with us financially and socially.  Along with our dues and fundraising efforts, collectively, they help us keep our organizations afloat. Each suspension, expulsion, sub-par academic standing, hazing incident, petty politicking, and negative perception of any member, chapter or organization hurts our pockets.  Fraternities and Sororities take a huge hit when they have to pay for pledging lawsuits, lose prospects to other organizations and members drop off after graduation to skip Grad Chapter all together.

Businesses run off of 3 things: their reputation, their employees and their consumers. If employees are displaying a poor image of what the organization represents, the reputation of the brand becomes tainted and undesirable, thus resulting in a digression of potential members, sponsors, investors, etc. The more damaging the reputation- the more costly it is for your organization. We can’t afford to let it get to the point of extinction. Do everything you can to counteract this. Check each other constantly in a brotherly & sisterly manner. Aint nobody got time for shade. If you can’t offer solutions or constructive criticism, let someone else do the talking. PLUS, you’re going to need job experience after graduation. Use your Greek experience to your advantage. This is the professional experience you’ve been looking for. Don’t squander it.


When running a business, not everyone needs to know your business. Know there are times when the Exec Board is going to have conversations that will be more detailed than those in your chapter meetings. They’re leadership and they have to make tough decisions. If you have an issue with decisions made, vote. If you’re out voted, have a talk with the board. If necessary, go to your Grad adviser. Hopefully, it doesn’t get to that. If you have to voice a concern, you can talk to your chapter members. But if you do, keep it factual and less based on hearsay. Gossip breeds dissension, division and distrust. You’re adults. Talk it out. Compromise when needed. Learn how to agree to disagree when necessary.

At the end of the day, the most importantly, keep yo business to yoself! Don’t go talking your business to people outside of your chapter. Hell, there might be people inside your chapter who can’t hold water. Don’t tell them high priority stuff! They might be great people, they just have a big mouth. Accept them as they are, swerve them when it comes to certain info. It’s not petty or sneaky. It’s called insurance. You don’t want your organization’s discrepancies seeping onto the yard for the world to see. THE ONLY time this is ever appropriate is if someone(s) is being treated poorly physically, emotionally, or mentally. If someone is abusing their authority and it is becoming a hindrance to the chapter, talk to the proper uppers in order to handle the situation. And all the while, keep it inside the chapter.


All of us make mistakes, including your Prophytes. There will be times when you find us in a compromising position. You may catch us slipping when we’re not presenting ourselves in the best manner. There will be moments when we’re not as available as we could be (or should be). We may be caught up in other things and you’ll feel alone. This is when you tap into the potential we saw inside of you and your line. Challenge yourself. Challenge each other to be a step above our level. It’s all about progression. Don’t become complacent with our capabilities. Always, ALWAYS strive to level up. Sometimes, we lack because our priors lacked and we reflect the slack they displayed. Although we don’t verbalize it as an excuse, there will be moments where our actions will show otherwise. Learn from our mistakes. More importantly, forgive us.


As the saying goes “A closed mouth don’t get fed.” If you’re yearning for mentorship or leadership, don’t be afraid to ask for it. As Prophytes, we’ll get the notion that you have everything you need to get things started. What we neglect to do is remember how it felt when we were fresh on the yard. Although the sink or swim approach might work for some people, that should not be the only teaching strategy.

Expect more from us. Demand more from us. Ask us questions about what it takes to run a chapter. Make us think about what works and what doesn’t. Inquire about how we can do better and where we can implement these improvements. You don’t have to be a bug-a-boo. But be consistent and insistent about learning how to be an intricate factor in your chapter’s success. This will make us step our game up, take us out of our little world and expand our vision beyond the chapter. Our legacies are dependent on what you take in today. Don’t let us leave without making sure we pass down the scepter and the instructions on how to use it.



We chose you for a reason: potential. Whether that potential is fully grown or needs some development, we saw it in you. It’s your duty to prove us right – show us that the light we saw in you is going to shine, and it’s gonna shine bright. It’s also your duty to prove us wrong – any doubts that we had about you need to be debunked rather than reaffirmed. You can do exceedingly more than we could ever do, IF you APPLY YOURSELF.  Show us that you’re serious. Take initiative. Problem solve. Fill our voids. You are the leaders of yesterday, today, and tomorrow.  Find your groove and blaze your path. We’re privately and patiently waiting for you to make us proud.


Another reason why we picked you is because you add a unique twist to our story line. Never lose that. If you want to do your own solo dolo thing sometimes, that’s cool. It’s okay to not be with us at every second of the day. It’s fine if you miss a party. You shouldn’t have to feel guilty for attending another organization’s meeting. Spending time with your non-Greek friends isn’t a sin. Dating someone not in NPHC won’t be shunned. Seriously, it’s okay to be a GDI. Also, if you ever feel that Greek Life is impeding on important things in your life (romantic relationships, spiritual relationships, friendships, grades, health, opportunities, sanity, etc), feel free to take a breather. Let someone you trust know you’re stepping off the scene. We want you to be whole and balanced as possible. We’re ONE of the many organizations you belong to, not the ONLY. Don’t idolize us. We’re not that important. Analyze, prioritize and revitalize if you need to step away.

We understand you have a life outside of Greekdom (or you should have one). That doesn’t mean neglect us as soon as you probate. (I mean, we coo-right?) However, we do want to be a part of your life, not the end all-be all of your social activities. Your pre-Greek friends were riding with you before we were. That doesn’t mean we’re not going to bond and our relationships won’t grow. But don’t forget to engage with the things, people, places and spaces that made you who  you are and who we love. That’s what got you here in the first place.


Even though your process is over, you are never, ever, eva-eva-eva done with learning. (If you read that in Chris Tucker’s voice, I rock with you). There is always something new to take in.  Trinkets from history will pop up. Revised and refined ways to do things will be introduced. Words of wisdom will come at a time when you don’t want to hear it, but it’s gonna be oh-so necessary. Greek Life will challenge you and it will come with some interestingly tough jabs. The best way to combat this is to remember, your place – at this moment – is a Neo.

Your education didn’t stop after initiation. Neo literally translates to “New Plant” in Greek. You are in the seed phase. You broke through the soil, but you haven’t established your roots, stem or the bud yet. In order to get to that point, you need nurturing, training and time. You don’t know everything – and you have to accept that. The moment you do, that leaves the door of divine opportunity wide open. The learning curve will be easier to ride, whereas resistance will make it rough. People will be more willing to mentor you. Mentors who will help you avoid the potholes of the post-process and boost your appeal in the Greek world and beyond. Note, we are all in the process of growing into great Greek Life members ourselves, so you’re not alone. We’re all learning together, we’re just a couple of steps ahead. Let us help you so we can elevate our orgs together, mk? Mk.

If I’m missing anything, let me know. Hit me up on Twitter, Facebook or IG! I’d be glad to hear from you!

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The Person In Your Black Fraternity/Sorority Who Picks You Up From The Airport Is The Realest Person In Your Chapter

It is time for us to appreciate some of the most overlooked and under-appreciated  people in any Black fraternity or sorority alumni or undergraduate chapter…drumroll…the brother or sister who picks you up from or drops you off at the airport.

Out of all of the roles in your chapter or org, there are few roles that display more signs of brotherhood or sisterhood on a micro level than the person who takes time out of their day to pick you up or drop you off at the airport. These people show selfless care for the well-being of their brothers or sisters and thats why we at Watch The Yard are celebrating them today.

Yeah you could call Uber or Lyft, but why do that when you have a line brother/sister, old head, or neophyte to pick you up and welcome you to the city or drop you off and wish you farewell.

Here’s looking at you, good brother. Here’s looking at you good sister.

“You are appreciated” *Tupac voice*

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Every Member of a Black Fraternity or Sorority Needs to Read This Poem

We love poems here at Watch The Yard and this one about active membership always hits home for us.

The poem “Do you just belong” has been used by sports teams, churches, and various orginizations as a way to make their members reflect about their purpose and duties.

While many members of the Black greek community already know this poem, we thought we would share it as a refresher for those who have never read it or those who have not come across it in a while.

For those of you in leadership positions, this poem is always a great way to start chapter meetings.

Do You Just Belong?

Are you an active member
The kind that you would be missed?
Or are you just contented
That your name is on the list?

Do you attend the meetings and
Mingle with the flock?
Or do you just stay at home
To criticize and knock?

Do you take an active part
To help the work along?
Or are you satisfied
To only just belong?

Do you work with your committee
And get right in and mix?
Or leave the work to just a few
And talk about the CLIQUES?

Think this over MEMBER_____________
You know right from wrong!
Are you an active member

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4 Actions Black Greeks Must Take Before Joining A Graduate Chapter

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Outside of crossing the burning sands, joining a grad chapter could be the second most important decision you could make in regards to showing your commitment to your Black Greek Fraternity or Sorority. But, like with choosing an undergrad chapter, you can’t join any chapter all willy nilly.

Just because your prophytes are in a certain chapter doesn’t mean it’s the best fit for you. Nor should you gravitate towards a chapter because they the one that throws the livest happy hours. And most certainly, don’t feel pressured to join for fear of being labeled “Unfinancial”. Rededicating your life, time, energy and resources to a grad chapter is a BIG yet worthy responsibility and you should treat it as such.

If you’re thinking about joining a grad chapter, here are 4 Things You MUST do. Also, just for the record – this isn’t only for current Greeks. For those of you seeking to Greekdom via a Grad Chapter, this goes for you too.


Sampling grad chapters ahead of time will help you get an overall feel for the ideal chapter you want to join. As with undergrad chapters, each grad chapter has it’s own style, culture, personality and customs. Look up all the grad chapters in your area. Take into consideration the distance it takes to get to the meetings, how often they meet, chapter size, how long it’s been established and specific causes that chapter champions.

Then – shop around. Attend a few chapter meetings. Get a feel for their operations and their members. Ask about the committees you’d be most interested in. Join their email list so you can stay in the loop about upcoming events. After all this, do a best fit comparison test based on the top 3 things that you look for in a chapter.

Also, just to be courteous, if the information is available – let the Membership Director know you’re planning to visit their chapter meeting and/or event. You never know if they’ll be discussing sensitive information or if the event is for paid/financial members only.



If you’re not familiar with informational interviews, think of them as traditional job interviews – but in reverse. Informational interviews allow you to get a sneak peak into the culture and expectations of an organization before you decide to proceed with them. This is one of the best strategies you can implement.

Visit the chapter’s website for the Membership Director  or exchange cards with a frat or soror at their next social event or meeting. Then, take some time to jot down your most pressing questions about joining grad. Narrow your questions down to at least three inquiries and contact the member of your choice. See if he/she has time for a 30-minute call or a quick coffee meeting to discuss what’s on your mind. This will give you a glimpse of what you have to expect coming in.


The price is the second biggest concern for people attempting to join grad chapter. If you thought undergrad pinched your pockets, you ain’t ready for the grad chapter. Being “Financial” comes with a hefty price tag. HOWEVER, it doesn’t have to be as daunting as it may seem.

Ask the Membership Director about a payment plan, their current dues schedule and any discount incentives they might have. If you’re a fairly new graduate, usually grad chapters offer discounted dues to incentivize younger members to join a grad chapter early. Also, if you’ve been “gone” for an ample amount of time, there might be a Reclamation Campaign discount to encourage “lost” fraters and sorors to come back home.

You’ll also want to ask questions about the average expenses it requires to be in the organization: events, cause based contributions, social outings, galas, savings for chapter trips, anniversaries, fees for acknowledgments and special recognition, etc.

All those things start to add up. Depending on your income, some of these expenses could break the bank if they’re competing with personal expenses like student loans, car notes, insurance bills, etc. Knowing your financial feasibility will dictate certain privileges you’ll have access to throughout the fiscal year. With that being said, ONLY start asking these questions once you are seriously considering joining. If you don’t have the dedicated funds at this time, no worries. Ask your Membership Director what you can do in the meantime to make up where your money can’t – time, advanced volunteerism, etc.


For the love of your Founders, be realistic with your calendar. You thought you were busy in undergrad. TUH! Try having a full time job, paying bills, taking care of a family, paying more bills, savings, planning possible vacations, etc. The point is, you have way more on your plate than you ever did before. You have to factor all of these things into your commitment calendar.

The best way to ensure your long-term commitment is to find a tangible cause and/or role you can be dedicated to. Evaluate what you’re passionate about and align your skill set to areas where you could be of service. Start going to chapter meetings on a regular basis. Narrow down your ideal committees. Let the head of the committee know how and when you can contribute to the chapter. Make your commitments feasible.

Granted these are the end all-be all tips for joining a grad chapter, but it’s a great way to make an informed decision before you reconnect and re-engage in a deeper and meaningful way. And if you can’t join grad chapter right now, don’t sweat it. You have the rest of your life to jump back into the swing of things. Find your groove and then jump in the game.  If you thought this was helpful, let us know. Tweet us at @dptaugthme or drop us a line in the comment section. We’d like to hear your feedback. Until next time fam. Be easy!

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[This piece was written by guest writer Alexzandria Chill | UNT Graduate. Marketing Freak. Frankie Bev Fanatic. Lady of Z-PHI-B and Founder of Blog: @DPTaughtMe]

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