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THE GUIDE TO ATTENDING A NPHC GREEK PICNIC

[This piece was written by WatchTheYard.com Guest Writer, Alexzandria Chill]

If you are a NPHC member, you know this is Greek Turn Up season. Travel arrangements have been developing in GroupMe chatrooms for months. You’re ordering your flyest greek apparel ahead of time. Old heads and Neos are simultaneously perfecting and synchronizing steps. This is time to show out in the best way possible.

Let’s marinate on those key words, “best way possible” for a minute. One thing some NPHC members fail to realize is that even though this may feel like another version of “Spring Break”, they still have to uphold their letters in a respectful and tasteful manner. Having fun is not an excuse or scapegoat for misconduct and irresponsible behavior.

After viewing some of the comments, video clips and  “Greek Confessions” concerning the shenanigans that took place at the Marriot during last year’s Atlanta Greek Picnic, I thought of some alternative ways to we can enjoy ourselves at our Greek functions while still making our Founders proud.

1) Use Greek Unity to Your Advantage

Most Greek Picnics have a day reserved for job fairs and networking. This is the perfect (and one of the only times) you can mix business and pleasure. Yes, you are here to wild out with your bruhs and strut with your sorors. But don’t miss out on a great opportunity by just attending the social events. There are dozens, sometimes hundreds, of people from various professional backgrounds coming into town to attend this picnic. Find some time to really get to know some people outside of your chapter. Chop it up with some of your Facebook/Twitter followers. Venture outside of your organization and see what other fraternities and sororities have going on. You might end up with some fresh ideas and new friends. Most importantly, you may snag a new job opportunity, internship or possibly the key to your big break.

2) Offer More Than Just Lip Service

We’re pretty sure all of us emphasized how we “LOOOOOOOOVE to do community service” on our essays when we initially tried out for our respective organizations. Well, seeing is believing. The volunteer projects are the least attended Greek activities during that weekend. If you can’t make it out for whatever (legitimate) reason, that’s one thing. But if you have the ability to actually do something for someone else that day, attend the volunteer projects. Service is deeply embedded in who we are as a council. Don’t just offer lip service, actually participate. Plus, you’ll feel better knowing you helped improve someone’s life. And it only took a few hours.

3) Don’t Be a World Star/ VH1 Reality Show Candidate

In the digital age we live in today, it is too easy to get caught slipping. At any moment, a camera phone can make an act that could have flown under the radar instantly go viral. Be careful of how you present yourself at all times. And most importantly, hold your fellow Greeks accountable. We are all our brother’s (and sister’s) keeper. Know your limits with the Frat punches. If you’ve had too much to drink, make sure you leave with a designated driver. Don’t let your “organization’s history” serve as a catalyst for a fight. We are not gangs. We are grown adults upholding letters that represent integrity and scholarship; act accordingly. Whether you’re trying to demonstrate First Fam, Dove, Coleman or Indy love, use protection at all times. And on that note, be careful who you get involved with. A simple rule of thumb would be, if you can’t do it front of your grandmama, granddaddy or your Founders…you probably shouldn’t do it. Or better yet, you know what’s right and wrong by now. Just do right. Acting a fool isn’t not worth it. And one night’s rendition of “The Hangover” could end up hurting you in the long run.

As a council, we were created to uplift our communities. We often forget that we are apart of that community, which means we should be uplifting each other. If we don’t hold ourselves to a higher standard, we can’t expect other people to do the same.  Enjoy yourself,  but also remember you are representing something greater than yourself. Represent your letters with dignity. Your Founders and future generations will be grateful you did.

This piece was written by Alexzandria Chill | UNT Graduate. Marketing Freak. Frankie Bev Fanatic. Adamant Knowledge Seeker. Lady of ZPHIB [Pearl Clu5]. Founder of Blog: @DPTaughtMe

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3 Ways to Share Our Stepping & Strolling Traditions Without Giving Away Our Culture

Photo Cred: Jarrad Henderson

[This opinion piece was written by guest writer Aleidra Allen for WatchTheYard.com in 2016]

Some of you may have seen the video of incoming University of Louisville freshmen (predominately white and non-Greek) performing what appears to be a stroll, a long standing tradition within Black Greek-letter organization (BGLO) culture, and more recently, Multicultural Greek Council (MGC) culture, at their orientation (while strolling was originally a BGLO tradition, MGC organizations have created their own tradition of strolling, similar in the linear structure but including movements from their respective cultures). A quick glance at the 600+ comments will make it clear that some BGLO members feel it is no big deal while others are outraged and say it’s cultural appropriation.

I understand both of these perspectives. As a member of a BGLO and a Greek Life advisor, countless times, I have seen the teaching of strolls and steps used for community building between MGC and BGLOs and Panhellenic Conference and Interfraternity Council (historically white) organizations. On the other hand, I’ve also attended stroll competitions where I could barely stay in my seat because the appropriation was so real.

The main thing that this situation reveals is a disconnect within our BGLO community on if we should or should not teach white, non-BGLO people how to stroll and step. Because the fact of the matter is that they’re not learning this on their own; our BGLO members are teaching them (which is a main reason why some do not agree that it is cultural appropriation, being that permission is given). Whether you like it or not, this has become a popular collegiate norm. If we want to see change, this internal dissonance must be addressed; I encourage all of our organizations to create space in chapter and council meetings, regional conferences, and international conferences for this topic to be discussed.

Hear each other out. Listen to why some of us feel there’s no issue, and listen to why some of us believe the tradition needs to be held in high regard and reserved for BGLO members only. Maybe then we will be able to collectively decide one way or the other.

But I know that’s wishful thinking. It will be extremely difficult to come to a true consensus or for everyone to be willing to compromise. So while I acknowledge and understand the perspective that this is cultural appropriation and that some BGLO members feel it should be eliminated completely, I also acknowledge that some of y’all will continue to teach non-BGLO, white people how to stroll and step (and I understand that, too). And for you, here are 3 ways to do so in a constructive and meaningful way, moving away from outright cultural appropriation and disrespect.

 

1. Only allow strolling and stepping by non-BGLO people to occur at BGLO-sponsored events.

Strolling and stepping are our traditions. Period. Limiting strolling and stepping by non-BGLO members to the annual non-BGLO stroll competition or fundraiser that is hosted by us gives us the opportunity to control how this goes. We get to set boundaries and parameters. Let the non-BGLO participants know that this is a unique occasion and that it would be inappropriate for them to stroll at a social event or continue on as a step/stroll team outside of this event.

If a Panhellenic or IFC organization, or any non-BGLO entity (the orientation department in the University of Louisville case), ever takes it in their own hands and is creating strolls or making strolling a part of their sponsored events, I highly encourage you to have a conversation with them about why that is inappropriate, and also contact your Greek Life advisor to address this, as well. Never feel that as a BGLO member/student, you have to participate or accept a request to teach strolling/stepping to non-BGLO members. If we are going to share our culture, it should be on our own terms, in our own way, and at our own events.

 

2. ALWAYS provide a history of stepping and strolling.

Before you teach them anything, give them a history lesson. They want to partake in our culture? They need to learn about and understand it first. Talk about when and how strolling and stepping became a part of BGLO culture. Explain how important it is to us. Talk about the rules and protocol of stepping and strolling, and how y’all don’t even let your LS (line sister) and LB (line brother) who is rhythmically challenged get in the line or the show. In all seriousness, all this information will help the non-BGLO people understand the value of these traditions. Even though they are being given an opportunity to engage in the experience, they will now have context and an appreciation and respect for the tradition, and are less likely to take the culture on for themselves outside of this specific occasion. A history lesson should also be given at your event before the competition or performances begin to ensure that the audience is also educated. Contrary to cultural appropriation, cultural appreciation includes learning about and listening to people of the culture. Providing history will help you achieve that.

 

3. Don’t give them EVERYTHING.

It is very possible for us to share the traditions of stepping and strolling without giving away every single aspect that is near and dear to our hearts. However, some of us struggle to see that fine line. Unfortunately, I have attended stroll and step competitions that included non-BGLO people and have been absolutely mortified by seeing them link up and death march, sing All of My Love, shimmy, and more.

Y’all. We don’t have to give them everything. These are our traditions. It’s our history. Only we can truly understand the meaning and importance of these movements and songs. We can teach others how to step and stroll without handing them everything that we had to work hard to have the privilege to do. Put them in a line, incorporate some popular dances, teach them some steps from your middle school step team, and call it a day. That’s all they need.

I know this is an ongoing discussion topic and I’m sure some of you already have your rebuttals; and that’s okay. Let’s have the conversation; it’s needed. I hope this provides a new perspective to some, challenges you to think, and helps us to better understand each other.

Aleidra Allen is a program coordinator for multicultural education at Saint Louis University. In this role, she serves as the advisor to Black Greek-letter organizations in St. Louis. To learn more about Aleidra’s work, visit aleidraallen.com.

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Four Things To Do Before Making It Known You’re Interested In Joining A Black Fraternity Or Sorority

[This piece was written by Alexzandria Chill | UNT Graduate. Marketing Freak. Frankie Bev Fanatic. Adamant Knowledge Seeker. Lady of ZPHIB [Pearl Clu5]. Founder of Blog: @DPTaughtMe]

It’s fair to say, we all know the nervousness of going on a job interview or the anxiety of showing up to a family function when we know only one person. Trying to join a fraternity or sorority is sort of a combination of both of those situations.

If you’re an aspirant, you always hear the same ol, same ol rules about how to express your interest to the organization you wish to join. Be discrete. Do your research. Watch your GPA. Come to the events. While all of these to-dos are important, there are other factors to take into consideration before pledging your loyalty to a particular fraternity or sorority. Trying to get in can be a little intimidating. BUT, intimidation is only a state of mind.

1) Before You Research, Soul Search

Before you get into any deep Greek research, take some time to “Soul Search”. Define what values are important to you. What makes you tick? What inspires you? What things drive you to be your best? Once you nail those down, do the research. See if those values align with the organization you’re seeking to join. When you’re clear in who you are and exactly what you stand for, it’s easier to see if the essence of the organization you wish to be apart of is parallel to your standards.

2) Be Present – In Places Other Than Greek Events

Being active in other student organizations not only helps refine your career experience, but it also shows us that you’re multifaceted. It means that you can serve as an asset to our organization through your unique talents, your connections, and your leadership capabilities. All these things help advance the cause and presence of an organization. Plus, it shows you’re not waiting on Greek life to make a name for you. You’re making a name for yourself!

3) Put Greeks on Probation

Just like in dating, everyone is not deserving of your time. Therefore, you need to be observant to see which organization is truly worthy of your time, effort and talents. Take note of different chapters. Look at their events, their member’s behavior, campus involvement, work ethic, even rewards. If it doesn’t align to what you expected, you can 1) look for an organization that does 2) find ways you can help improve and add value to the chapter.

4) Know Your Worth

As aspirants, Greeks automatically pose the question, ” What does this person bring the table?”. You need to ask the same thing. How will being involved in this organization enhance or improve your life? If you can’t think of anything that is worth while, maybe Greek life isn’t for you…and that’s okay. But if you do, meditate on the different things that make this organization uniquely beneficial to you and go for it!

If you are greek, feel free to share this on Facebook with people who may be interested. If you are not greek, be discreet and share this article with someone who is interested in joining via text, email or Facebook messenger.

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This Web Series Created By Black Fraternity Members For Grown A** Black Men Is What The Internet Needs

There is a new web-series on the block and it is made for and by grown a** Black men.

The show, entitled Black Brilliance 360 was launched by Charles Coleman Jr., civil rights attorney, CNN legal analyst and member of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity Inc.

“It is an original series of web-based conversations among black men about the things that matter to us most,” Charles told Watch The Yard. “These are conversations that deal with identity, lifestyle, self-care, relationships, power, and struggle.”

The series features a team of 9 different contributors, mixing and matching different combinations of contributors each episode to add a different feel and flavor to each discussion.

We at Watch The Yard are in love with this not just because the show features grown Black men in a way that you don’t see in popular media, but also because the contributors are members of the Black fraternity community. The contributor team features a member of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc., a member of Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity, Inc. and along with the founder who is a Que, two additional members of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity Inc.

“Black Brilliance 360 is an intergenerational conversation among black men about black manhood. And it is presented with the style and flair that makes black men unique unto ourselves. There is nothing like it out right now. It’s hip, it’s humorous, it’s smart, it’s sexy. And it’s very, very black.”

Check out the teaser for the show below!

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