Dealing with microaggressions at work and school can often be too much to handle and leaves many feeling as though the weekend will never come.
People at your job keep making comments about your hair or coming to your desk to recite their newest (but outdated) slang. Josh in accounting just told you that your new tie was “LIT”. When you tried to update Karen, the manager of the sales team, on the new client, she ended the conversation with “Foshizzle my nizzle” and five minutes ago, you walked to the microwave in the break room just as Brett was finishing a sentence with, “and that is why it makes sense to build a wall.”
We get it. We feel you. And while we can’t walk up to your job and tell everyone off for you like we wish we could, we thought that we would help you by leaving this list of one song that we know will help many of you through your week. A great song, that we all hold near and dear and love. A song that poetically reminds its listeners to hold their ground and advocate for themselves no matter the situation.
Yes, exactly, we are talking about Crime Mob’s “Knuck If You Buck”…it will get you through the week.
At this point you may be asking yourself, “Wait is this just an article with ‘Knuck if you Buck’ posted multiple times?”
Yes. Yes it is.
Bonus: For everyone dealing with the unfair inequalities of the gender pay gap.
And three more times just because we know you are dealing with extra stress thinking about the outcome of the 2016 presidential election.
We hope this helps, please send this to anyone who may need this to help them push through the rest of the week.
Remember: “You Is Smart, You Is Kind, You Is Important” and also “Now enough is enough, boy, rough and get stuffed, boy, Luck is a must, boy, knuck if you buck, boy”
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“For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide”
This was written by Dr. Adia(@DrAdiaShani), a licensed clinical psychologist and member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc.
“And this is for Colored girls who have considered suicide, but are moving to the ends of their own rainbows.”
– Ntozake Shange, for colored girls who have considered suicide/when the rainbow is enuf
Imagine what it would be like if every day began to feel grey. You wake up, struggle to get out of bed, maybe you don’t make it some days. Things got worse when someone you had a crush on raped you after you flirted and danced at a wonderful party. You felt ashamed and deeply hurt. You didn’t feel you could tell anyone for fear of people blaming and questioning you. You don’t feel there’s anyone you can call. You get the sense that everyone dislikes you. People are slow to respond to text messages. You know that you used to have the energy to engage in life but you can’t remember what motivated you before. You cannot see a light at the end of the tunnel. You begin closing in on yourself. Ignoring calls and texts from family and friends. Assuming that they don’t really care, that they don’t really want to hear about how you’re doing. You start drinking and smoking more to numb out the difficult feelings. You feel guilty for not enjoying your life. You have a job that pays well, an apartment, a car, nice clothes, a couple of degrees. You should be happy, right? You start having thoughts that there is no way you can be in this place of loneliness, isolation, despair for long. You’re not sure how much you can take.
People often commit suicide because they are overwhelmed by their emotions; pervasive hopelessness, despair, anxiety, anger, and pain can lead people to feel that life is no longer liveable. Suicide can be very difficult for the general public to understand. People who have loved ones who have committed suicide may feel a combination of guilt, anger, sadness, and denial. Suicide is commonly brushed over and denied as the cause of death. It is national suicide prevention week and it is time for us to talk about suicide. As painful and difficult and uncomfortable as it may be, in order to prevent people dying by suicide we have to talk about it. We have to let go of the denial that sometimes people get to the point when they no longer want to live. We have to let go of shaming ourselves and others for having thoughts that we want to die. We have to let go of taking the blame when people we love die by suicide.
Overall, Black people commit suicide at lower rates than other racial groups. However, it is important to note that the rates of suicide for Black youth has risen in recent years and in 2010, suicide was the 3rd leading cause of death for Black male youth (ages 15-24). Even though suicide rates in the Black community are lower, this is not an issue that we can take lightly. Across all groups, men are more likely to die by suicide than women and women are more likely to attempt suicide than men. The reason for this difference is in part because men tend to use more lethal methods. Overall, Black people are more likely to die by suicide at a younger age than White people (Suicide Prevention Resource Center).
Risk factors for suicide
One common question that arises when someone dies by suicide is how they could have taken their life when from the outside they seemed happy, they had people who loved them, etc. The reality is that we often do not know what is going on in the interior of other people’s lives unless we really check in with them and have an honest conversation about how they are doing. Life can be very challenging for a lot of people and many people who commit suicide may have experienced a recent stressful event that pushed them over the edge. Losing a job or having serious financial issues, going through a divorce, and experiencing pervasive and severe bullying, and trauma and are all things that cause people to consider suicide.
Additionally, we know that people who struggle with mental illness are more at risk for suicide. Depression is the most commonly known risk factor for suicide. Anxiety, substance abuse, and borderline personality disorder also make people more at risk. Mental illnesses often makes it difficult for people to take perspective on the things that they are experiencing. Particularly if people are not receiving mental health treatment they may believe that there is no way their life could improve, which can lead people to believe that suicide is their only way to escape. (Check out this site for more suicide risk factors).
For people considering suicide
To those of you who are considering suicide, know that you are not alone. Know that you are not broken. You may be stuck right now but you are not broken. Even though things seem overwhelming and you worry that your life will not get better, it will get better. Take a moment to reflect on your life thus far and think about a time in the past when things were really hard. Did things get better eventually? Did you grow and learn from that difficult experience? If things got better before, they will get better again. There are many other options besides suicide available to you even if you can’t come up with them on your own. Many people have thoughts about suicide. Just because you have suicidal thoughts does not mean that you need to act on these thoughts. The following are things I recommend you do if you are feeling suicidal.
- Reach out for help – if you are worried about your safety in the very near future call 911 or walk into an emergency room. If you need someone to talk to immediately, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255).
- Go to therapy – There are professionals who want to support you during this difficult time. Check out this post on Finding & Choosing a Therapist for guidance.
- Let go of your shame – The emotions you are feeling right now are likely a normal reaction to the difficult experiences you’ve had. Your mind is working to get you out of this difficult experience and has proposed suicide as an option. This does not mean that there is something fundamentally wrong with you. Check out this post on healthy ways to respond to difficult emotions.
- Tell someone you trust – People who are considering suicide often feel isolated and talking to someone you trust about how you are feeling can be very helpful and remind you that there are people who love you.
For people who are concerned about a loved one
First, if someone that you were close to died as a result of suicide you are not to blame. Also, if you are concerned about someone committing suicide there are things that you can do as a friend or loved one to support someone who may be at risk for suicide.
- Check in – Ask how your friend/family member is doing if you are concerned about them. If someone starts posting negative and self-loathing posts or disappears from social media without cause, if you see someone using more drugs and alcohol and withdrawing from social settings, these are signs that you should check in with the person.
- Ask about suicidal thoughts – If you think someone might be thinking about killing themselves, you can ask them directly if they are considering suicide. Asking people if they are thinking about killing themselves or want to die does not make them more likely to act on those thoughts, or put ideas into their minds.
- Help them get help – Encourage the person to get help and if you feel comfortable doing so, offer to help the person get connected to a therapist. If someone is threatening to harm themselves immediately and they have access to whatever they plan to use, call 911 or get them to the emergency room.
Bio: Adia Shani Gooden, Ph.D. (Dr. Adia for short) is a licensed clinical psychologist. She is a straight, cis, African American woman; she grew up in Southern California, and currently lives in Chicago, IL. Dr. Adia received her BA from Stanford University where she majored in Psychology and minored in Spanish and African and African American studies. After Stanford, Dr. Adia attended DePaul University and earned her PhD in Clinical Community Psychology. She completed a postdoctoral fellowship at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, where she focused on providing couples therapy and increased her understanding of relationship dynamics. Dr. Adia currently works as a clinical psychologist at a university counseling center in Chicago. Click here to read her blog.
Dr. Adia is a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated.
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Kappa Alpha Psi Director Combats the Stigma Surrounding Mental Illness in the Black Community with New Documentary
(This article was written by @Pyramids_and_Diamonds.)
Mental illness affects a large portion of our country, especially African Americans who according to the Health and Human Services Office of Minority Health, are 20% more likely to experience serious mental health problems than the general population.
Writer-Director Darnell Lamont Walker a Fall 2002 Gamma Theta initiate of Kappa Alpha Psi has made it his goal to shine a light on some unaddressed topics within mental health through his new documentary Outside the House. Giving voice to real people with real issues in an attempt to influence others to speak openly about their struggles in order to collectively battle the stigmas associated with it.
Walker, a writer- director who attended Bethune-Cookman University and Howard, decided to create the documentary after a friend in college committed suicide.
“For so long we’ve been unfamiliar with the language of asking for help that we don’t know how to explain the conditions of our souls. No one told us how to do this. We don’t air the dirty laundry. If the dirty laundry is not pulled from beneath the piles underneath the bag how is it ever dealt with?”
Walker started his journey to make the documentary with a simple Facebook post in which he asked his friends, “Black Folks who have sought mental health assistance, why did you do it?”
“The people began responding and my Facebook wall turned into a therapy session,” Walker said. “This was where I needed to begin. I contacted friends, family, friends of family, and random doctors and counselors around the US and traveled to where they were. I needed their stories. I needed them to rip off the door of that house outside of which their mothers told them to never share their issues. I needed their stories to help others do the same.”
“This film is not about statistics, or science, or theories, or practices. It’s about mental health and courageously sharing our stories so others will know they are not alone. It’s about what’s happened to us, what will happen to our children, and breaking cycles that are killing us in dark places.”
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The World Health Organization Is Now Classifying Processed Meat In Same Category As Smoking/Asbestos
You might want to think again about eating that hot dog, the World Health Organization announced today that eating processed meat including sausages and ham causes cancer and has now classified processed meat in the same category as smoking and asbestos.
“The WHO’s cancer research unit now classifies processed meat as ‘carcinogenic to humans’ based on evidence from hundreds of studies, and linked it specifically to colon, or colorectal, cancer.
The report outlined that simply eating 50 grams of processed meat each day — the equivalent of two slices of ham — can increase the risk of such cancer by 18%. However, the authors say the risks are relatively small to begin with,” CNN reports.
WHO has defined processed meat as, “any type of meat that is salted, cured or smoked to enhance its flavor or preserve it.” Processed meat generally contains pork or beef, but may also contain poultry.
While the processed meat is now being classified in the same category as smoking and asbestos because of its certainty of a link with cancer, this does not mean these things are were equally dangerous.
It looks like those people who have been preaching “No pork on my fork” have been right all along.
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